Since I’ve heard you say “Happy Mother’s Day!! Momma!!! “
I often feel like I’m stuck in the midst of it all. I’ve dreaded Mother’s Day after you died and still do. It’s just a reminder of a little blue eyed girl that is not with me anymore, and the newness that surrounds me. It can be very strange at times Lizzy. I don’t know how to process these thoughts anymore. Only time will tell….
Happy 25th Birthday Lizzy, I think about you often and what you would be like at this age. It’s so hard for me to comprehend, that I block it out. Because I don’t know you at this age, can only imagine.. So I imagine you with a beauty of grace and at the same time wanting to be the top scorer in Soccer, so I’ll just remember you as the quiet soccer player who was very into the games and also the soccer player who cried in defeat. I’m there with you and always will be…Love you to the moon, beyond and back again…..
Sooooo, well Lizzy, we all just recovered from Covid, I still can’t taste or smell. I’m sure you would think it was so funny lol I’m sitting here next to your brother Nick and your cousin Jude. We are watching the Saints game and are on pins and needles!!! We wish you were here with us. You do know Nick is going to college to become a veterinarian!!! Kristen is a veterinarian nurse. Our love for animals definitely runs in the family! I’ve been dealing with Ménière’s Disease….I’ll be ok though! Your sister is getting married in 3 months!! I have to be ok, and if I’m not …I’ll pretend I am like always. Love and missing you to the moon and back!!
So it’s been 13 years or so since I’ve “spoke” to you. We are going through some weird times Lizzy…We are doing the self-isolation thing, social distancing thing, and if we cough, staying in our rooms until we feel better…Weird times since you left us 13 years ago….
For the past three or four months now I have little to no energy. I have just about closed myself off from people. I have been thinking about the sequence of events from “that day” and it is driving me insane. I hate these thoughts, the thoughts that won’t leave. I miss my daughter so much that my heart aches, like literally aches. It is a longing I can’t explain unless you have lost a child of your own. And for someone to tell to try and not think about that day, well lets just say that it is not that easy. I wish it was…….but I will remember “that day” until I die.
Ok. Well. I haven’t written about you in awhile. I really don’t know what to say anymore…..I miss you like crazy, I do know that. I guess I decided to write now, because well you would be almost 18….a fact that is still hard for me to swallow and that you would be graduating this year. I received an invitation to someone who will be graduating this month and this person was your best friend ( when you guys were 10 years old) and I guess it triggered the thought that you would be graduating too….anyway he was your best friend ( when you guys were only 10) but that is the way I picture you. As a 10 year old. Not my daughter who is about to graduate!!! Anyway, it set me back to say the least. You should be walking on stage receiving your diploma as well. I don’t know how to feel or act right now. I am happy for him but sad at the same time that you should be here doing the same. Mother’s Day is coming up as well and all I can picture are your homemade cards….and then wonder what you would be like at this age….17 going on 18….About to graduate. I have been in a funk these last couple of weeks Lizzy. Your dad and brothers went on a cruise and while I did have a good time….I would sit on the balcony on the boat, looking at the stars and think of you and all of the fun that you would be having if you were here with us. And I know that you would want for us to be happy….and I think that is what got me through this vacation without you. One of the first vacations where you were not with us. I have shut off people to my world. This world where all I think of you and it doesn’t seem fair to your brothers’ and sister, but I can’t help it. 7 years and it still feels like yesterday, I have come to the conclusion that it will always feel this way until the day I die. You are forever 10 years old in my mind and heart. This year though, you would be graduating and no telling what you would have accomplished, either way I would be proud no matter what as long as you were here with us. Help me to get through these next couple of months. If I ever need you, it is now more than ever…..I love you to the moon, beyond and back….forever. Love, Momma
I remember while still living in the double wide, about a year before your accident….You saw this video on TV and you really liked it.
You were just starting to get into skating. I don’t know I am even journaling this. I think I just need to remember the little things….Like acting goofy and dancing and singing to this song. I can see it. I’m scared I’ll start to forget things. This is so hard Lizzy….I feel empty and that is not a good feeling 😦 I love you to the moon and back and beyond…..
I don’t even know where to begin…My heart aches for you Lizzy. School is about to begin. The month I totally dread, which most people have no idea why I am so down of the month of August. You would have been 17 this month. I try not to think about it, but the thought of you….imagining what you would look like at this age….Just so many thoughts that I think of on a daily basis. It has been over 6 years and my mind is always clouded with thoughts of you. Some days I don’t feel like being here, other days I am on automatic pilot- to the point of being numb….And
then there are days that I find myself thinking about things that you have done, and for a moment I smile and maybe laugh. But those instances are rare. Maybe one day I will forgive myself for handing you that key….But not today…..Loving you to the moon and back and beyond……The Mom